Beachbody Day 3

Day 3 was a bust. I caught some GI virus or ate something bad. So what does a person do? drink pepto bismol, diet ginger ale, and munchos. Why munchos?  Because as celiac, I cannot have saltines and these are the best substitute I have ever found. They are incredibly salty, which I suppose helps some, but it makes my throat raw and creates more acid, but more like ulcer acid than being sick acid – which means I want dairy. lol.

So we wait and pick it back up as soon as possible.

Day 2 Beachbody

61613086_10218621134150685_6217428789794701312_oSo Day 2 on the Beachbody 21 day fix real time…. I did okay. I switched and did upper rather than lower, because my legs were in so much pain from yesterday. I took two baths with epsom salts followed by muscle cream just to function – and basically screamed a lot today due to pain. But I did it! (Oh, and I know I am a raw, savage, sexy beast…. you get it real, here!)

I have to modify the modifications, but I still did the exercises. I used really light weights and I am okay with that.  I made up for it in reps, but made sure I was controlling the movements rather than swinging away with light weights.

I have tendinitis in my left thumb right now – it only takes about 4 months to heal…. so I am not sure I would trust myself to hang on to actual weights.  lol

Eating – did well today. Carbs were 36%, 40% fat, and only 24% protein. But it was within calorie levels and healthy food. I don’t know that I will shoot for #ketosis, so I am blending the #Beachbody and #keto to eat healthy, but keep carbs lower. I know I hit carbs because I like oatmeal and a banana for breakfast. Am I willing to sacrifice one? probably? But do I want to be in ketosis?  probably not. Maybe one day, but with my general health conditions…. anh – although (and maybe someone with knowledge can tell me) would going into ketosis be more beneficial on my “pre” diabetes?  It should bring my A1C down, but I need to research the pros and cons of ketosis on almost diabetics. Remember, I am in this to get healthy – aesthetics and looking good in a superhero unitard is secondary.

Still need to focus on getting steps back up to 12,000 a day. So far this week, just trying to keep moving at all. But this is what we live with, right? my Lupus warriors?

Day 2 in the books.

Beach[ed]body Day 1

I just started the Beachbody 21 day fix real time program. One of my former law students did the program and became a coach. I’ve been looking for something ever since my trainer moved to TN and I am not a candidate for most trainers (the whole passing out during workouts bothers some people, who knew?).


I just did day 1 – total body cardio fix. They have a lady, Cat -who is the modification partner.  She is the one who does the modified exercises for those who cannot do the full movements or level. I had to modify from her modifications.  I did not use weights. Which is good, because on the overhead arm raises, I could not even do those without weights for the full time. lol

Let’s not fool anyone – I am out of shape. But I don’t know that I have ever been “in shape.”  Up until my 30s, I was mainly under 100 pounds except when pregnant when I gained over 50. so I was a beanpole without trying. In fact, I only gained weight when sick, when the metabolism slowed down.  Too skinny. But it meant I never learned how to watch my weight or nutrition and I am not athletically inclined.

So here I am, 50 years old, trying to get into shape. With Lupus, Sjogrens, Fibromyalgia, POTS, osteoporosis (maybe -penia by now), no thyroid, multiple complications, so let’s just say I am no one’s dream client! and that includes myself.

But I’m gonna do this. I am aiming for a total of 40 pounds off. Understanding muscle weighs more, I am a tight size 8 (I threw away size 10s two years ago and refuse to buy more), so I want to be a size 4 on bottom. This top won’t go below an 8. But most importantly – the belly has to go. It is diabetic weight.  and unless I want to go on insulin… I need to get my butt and my organs into shape!



Day 8 – Countdown Challenge – what does Service through Leadership, Integrity, Character, & Confidence mean to me?

So simple and elegant yet so profound and complex. An organization attracts people to it through its mission and actions – the USA Ambassador Pageant is a charity driven organization that promotes Success through Leadership, Integrity, Character and Confidence (S.L.I.C.C.) in today’s women. (and if you are not into pageants, keep reading – it applies broadly)

Leadership. One of the best compliments I ever received was by overhearing a comment about me. The group was talking about people who “go against the flow.” One said “Like K” and another laughed. She responded “K doesn’t go against the flow, she doesn’t notice the flow. She sees what needs to be done and does it. The rest of us just follow in her wake.” There have been times when I sought leadership, others where it was put upon me and I had to learn to step up, and even others where I did not realize I was leading. Leadership can be learned, although some people seem to naturally step into the role. However, leadership should never be about yourself. Leadership should be about the other people, the community, or the issue being addressed.

Integrity. Integrity is being true to who you are as a person. This takes knowing yourself – the good, the bad, and the ugly. This can be a painful journey to be brutally honest with yourself and some of us only get there through a valley of fire and legos.  One of my personal brand words was selected not because of what I thought/think, but because of how others have described me: authentic. What you see is what you get. Yes, I can be diplomatic, but I will always be authentic. And authenticity is my integrity.

Character. When the question was asked in our group to identify which of the S.L.I.C.C. words to which we each closely identified,  I chose character.  It means “the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual.” So without character, we have no integrity; we cannot be leaders; and we have no confidence. Plus, I am generally “a character.” Somehow, methinks that may not always be meant as a compliment, but I can choose (and do choose) to see it as one.

Confidence. Whew. This one. Well, did you know that it is possible to have high self-confidence yet low self-esteem?  I am very confident in my skills, abilities, and talents, but I still feel like a little lost, unworthy, poor girl from the South. But I am working on this. It’s actually one thing that brought me to competing in pageants as a nearly-50-year old woman. I wanted to build my self-confidence in myself as a person. And yes, pageants give me that. I am confident standing with accomplished women on a stage, being judged on many different factors, and frankly reveling in my womanhood.  It;s fun and I am becoming more confident.

To me, S.L.I.C.C. embodies the philosophy I try to live by – living out loud. I learned to live out loud because of my success or vice versa: I succeeded because I learned to live out loud.  S.L.I.C.C. is a standard to live by and one to strive to reach, whether in pageants, in business, or in your personal life.

Day 6 – Living Out Loud! My platform

K pic.pngA pageant is not just the crown. To paraphrase the latest Spiderman movie – “If you’re nothing without the [crown], then you don’t deserve it.” My platform is Living Out Loud, from the Lupus movement encouraging those with Lupus to be advocates and bring awareness to the devastation of this disease. I take it further.  Living Out Loud (laughing out loud, loving out loud) means to be uniquely and unapologetically yourself.

Women (successful women) in particular suffer from the “imposter syndrome” where they don’t feel that they deserve the role, position, salary, responsibilities that have earned – that any day now, someone will recognize that they are not good enough.

As a single mom, poor, on welfare, struggling to earn a nursing degree so I could support my two girls (1 and 3 years old), I had a dream. I dreamed that I could go into the local corner store and buy a coke without having to balance my checkbook first. Dream accomplished, I went on to dream more, but there are thousands of women / minorities who dare not dream.

Researching success metrics is disheartening in male-dominated fields – women are not considered successful because they don’t hit the metrics that were defined by men as indicators of success.  My theory is that women define success differently – it’s not the c-suite title that matters, it’s the salary and position that they aimed for and the time to pursue other interests.

My view on life was included in a recent book “The She Shift” – issued this week. How inspiring to see that my story inspires others. Living Out Loud means being vulnerable, but being authentic. It took me years to learn how to be me, and who “me” is, but I am honest in expressing who I am and being true to myself – making life more …. everything for my family. Once you do live out loud, you will find that you become an advocate for yourself and others.

Living out loud is not easy. It takes courage to dream, to expose your inner self (if only to yourself), and to shoot for that dream, to define your own success, to be true to yourself – whether that means standing up, standing out, or standing still.

Day 2 – USA Ambassador – Favorite Headshot

Oh picking a headshot…. I have been so lucky to have amazing photographers and hair/make up artists (at times) for some of my favorite headshots. (you can tell, I generally like to wear bright pink/ fuschia!). The first two are my current ones – my USA Ambassador Pageant headshot and then one with my amazing crown.

Headshots are critical. And in the legal field, most headshots are in the boring black and navy outfits. So. Not. Me. Being able to be me is so vital to being successful, happy, and accepted. I took a chance with the last one, to see if I like black – and in this dress, heck yeah, I liked me in black. I felt sophisticated and gorgeous! Thank you in bunches to Vanessa Menendez for seeing me through a lens that I could not see myself and to the magic of Kelly Wisniewski for hair and make-up.

Day 1 – USA Ambassador – All About Me

20160227_123608It is now one month till the USA Ambassador Pageant starts in Florida at the Innisbrook Resort! So excited! Every day now, we have a challenge. Today is “all about me.” When I think of this question, the ending of the Breakfast Club comes to mind: “. .  each one of us is a brain, and an athlete, and a basket case, a princess, and a criminal.”

The USA Ambassador Pageant believes in Success through Leadership, Integrity, Character, and Confidence – SLICC. This foundation is what truly calls me to this system – because I have succeeded / am succeeding because I have taken on leadership roles and strive to be the leader my community needs me to be, however large or small that community is – living my integrity, building character, and gaining confidence.

Who am I?

Passionate. Authentic. Vibrant. 

Whatever I do, I do it with everything – when I cry, I am bawling like a baby. When I laugh, it is a full, belly rolling, sometimes to the point of tears laugh. I am an excitable personality. . . some call it “way too perky” while others keep feeding me chocolate and caffeine. Like the country song says, I am “unusually unusual, absolutely unpredictable” (song by Lonestar).

But that may be wishful thinking. At my core, I am a southern girl, born and bred – and proud of my roots. I am mom to two amazing young women, who are my heart and soul. Unfortunately, my gene pool must be a swamp, because I passed down my autoimmune issues to them both. If I ever asked God why I had to have so many problems (systemic Lupus, et al), I learned why when my baby girl was 11 years old, then her sister at 13 – both diagnosed with autoimmune, incurable and life-altering. I had it so I knew how to help them through it. Theyoungest is now just past one master’s degree and about to finish the second. My oldest has a master’s in education, specializing in STEM, and teaches elementary – and about to give birth to her first child. I am blessed.

Additionally, I love animals to a fault (seriously, I have six dogs and a cat).  And the light of my life is my beloved spouse, Tim.

Last year, when I was honored to be named an Outstanding Woman in Business, we had to pull questions to answer on stage. I was in the latter part of the group and was so envious of the women who could answer so eloquently.  My question was “Knowing what you know now, is there anything you would go back and advise your younger self to do differently?” My response was immediate. “Well, yeah. I’ve changed careers three times and am on my third husband. I wish I had gotten it right faster, but I’m Southern and we take things slowly. But at least I finally did it right.”

I’ve learned to be open about my struggles and life experiences. Maybe my story resonates with someone and helps them in some way. Having survived domestic violence, rape, near-death, and still struggling with self-worth, incurable diseases, and depression – I thank God every day I wake up and every night when I lie down to rest.  I have fought to get where I am, but only succeeded because of the people who helped me. It is my calling in life to serve others and to help make this world a better place. If I only impact one person, then that one person can impact another. We build our future, one step at a time, one small act at a time. Through the Presidential Volunteer Service Awards, I have been awarded bronze, silver, and gold for many years – and Lifetime Achievement for my volunteer work and have currently recorded over 10,600 hours. Why? Because people helped me. People need help. Lawyers are in a unique position to give to the community in a way no one else can – and all attorneys should do so.

In the end, I am a successful woman, happily married, bursting with pride over my kids, working as a global privacy consultant (attorney), still pursuing my Ph.D., who cherishes my experience as a hospice nurse, dreams of being a talk show host, and frankly – welcomes every day and glories in the small blessings in life.



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K Royal (@heartofprivacy)