In one of my education courses, we learned about “person-first descriptors”. Example: I am not the lupus-woman, I am the woman with lupus. She is not the disabled student, she is a student with a disability. Subtle but significant.
You are not defined by your disability. You’re a kaleidoscope, a butterfly, whatever- you are NOT just your disability. Don’t get mired down in that nonsense. Do not define yourself as “the arthritis girl”, “the always-exhausted lady”, the “disabled guy”. No. You’re the girl who’s in school and crochets and sucks at singing; you’re the guy who’s smart in politics, is a lightweight drinker, and still calls his mom “mommy”.
You are not just your disability. Develop yourself as a human being- I volunteer, babysit, have craft hobbies, travel, foster kittens…
All those motivational speeches at pep rallies still apply, disability be damned. Go out and do stuff.